In gardening the term “volunteers” refers to plants which self-seed and thus come back each year on a “volunteer” basis. This is a great situation for many desirable plants. I have had good luck with some flowers coming up along my pond and it makes me think of parenting techniques.
There are all kinds of successful parenting styles: democratic, authoritarian, laissez-fare or easy going. To some degree your parenting will be based on your personality and your rearing. But sometimes your best parenting will just happen by itself.